Wednesday
Nov122014

Sweet and spicy island pork tacos

 

I literally dreamed up this recipe once. I had a dream I was standing in my kitchen pulling pulled pork out of my crock pot. I made the entire taco in my dream and when I woke up I told my husband about it.

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Tuesday
Nov112014

My baby boy is three today

My sweet boy is three today. Part of me just doesn't beleive that. Time can't move that fast. It just can't. 

I vividly, VIVIDLY remember the day he was born. I remember some of the smallest details. If it was three years ago, why is my memory of the day so sharp? 

But alas, my boy is three. 

The picture at the top of this post just captures his personality. The hat he is ALWAYS wearing, his prized cowboy boots, his favorite pair of trian pants that his Nana made him. And there is a look on his face, ever so subtle, that lets you know he is up to something. 

I am not going to do a long and weepy blog post today. I want to. But I am going to refrain. Mainly because I have all the feelings and we would be here a while. But more so because I just want to enjoy him. I want to enjoy these last few hours of him being two before the clock strikes 11:59 p.m. and he is officially three. 

Monday
Nov102014

How do I get my husband to budget with me??? 

I get this question a lot: How do I get my husband to budget? Or how do I get on the same page with my spouse? 

We all know you cannot force a grown person (or a child a lot of times...) to do something he or she just doesn't want to do. 

I am not a professional marriage counselor and Jason and I are NOT financial advisors, but I can tell you that trying to force your spouse to do something causes more damage than good and can really hurt both of you. 

So last night I sat down and talked to Jason about his thoughts on getting a couple to think in sync when it comes to finances. 

Here is what he had to say:

1. Find some common ground. Make a list of your goals and see where they match. For us it was me getting to stay home with our kids. So we figured out what we needed to do to make that happen. 

Secondly it was buying a house. So we set our savings goals and worked towards those. We looked at what we HAD to cut to get there and we did it. 

2. Find where you can compromise. My husband gave up cable. I showed how the math and we saw that it was eating up just too much of our budget. 

However, if you're spouse is unwilling to let go of something completely see if you can find a cheaper alternative. Say, a smaller cable package. 

3. Respect the individual. Your spouse isn't you and you are not him or her. Respect that you are unique people with your own thoughts and feelings. How boring would your life be otherwise? Even if you don't agree with something your spouse wants, don't belittle that feeling or treat them like it is stupid. That just causes hurt feelings and resentment. 

 

For more of what Jason had to say, watch the video below. (At the end of the video he also shares his perspective on Christmas budgets and getting your kids to give.)

What do you think? Are you and your spouse on the same page? Tell me about it below!

 

 

Friday
Nov072014

Can you feed your family for just $50 a week? And a special announcement!

I am so excited today! I am so excited to be announcing the first episode of the Frugal Debt Free Life Podcast. 

I have been working on this for what feels like forever and I am so glad to FINALLY bring it to you. 

The show is all about Living a Limitless Life on a Limited Budget. That is the mission statement, purpose, goal... 

The show will be bi-monthly for now and in the new year we will move to a once a week format. 

Today we will be talking to my friend Courtny of Our Family of Four, an incredible YouTube channel where Courtny and her family share their journey to become debt-free. One way they are doing that is by limiting their grocery budget. 

Courtny feeds her family balanced meals for just $50 a week! 

Thursday
Nov062014

Have an attitude of gratitude everyday

It's been nearly two years now since I first wrote this post about finding peace in contentment. And in that time I have found myself increasingly frustrated and overwhelmed by the rental house where we are living. 

One night, not that long ago I began a pity party. I couldn't sleep. I listened to the dehumidifier scream in the hallway. 

I was counting my frustrations with this house: it's lack of insulation and insane electric bill, cow pasture in the winter that smells to high heaven and the mice. Oh dear heaven, the mice.

We have to run the loud dehumidifier 24/7 to keep mold from growing in the closets and on the walls. It makes me feel bad about where I live. 

I could go on and on but I think at this point everyone, including myself, is tired of hearing about this house. 

SO one night when I couldn't sleep. I made a list of things I have to be thankful for. When I do this I find that my problems aren't really problems, they are annoyances that I can live with. When I make a list of things I am thankful for it is easier for me to find contentment. 

1. I am saved by Grace. I have a God who loves me, saved me and forgives me when I throw little pity parties for myself. 

2. I have a husband who loves me and our children. He is a hard worker and he loves the Lord. 

3. I have TWO healthy children. This is like winning the lottery. I have many friends whose children have chronic illnesses, or have suffered through difficult starts in life. 

4. I have been able to get pregnant and carry two healthy babies. I have the ability to get pregnant and stay pregnant and a lot of women would wish for that. 

5. Both of my parents are still alive and I have a good relationship with both of them. 

6. My sister is my best friend. She is kind and funny and encouraging and listens to me when I complain over and over again about this house. 

7. I am healthy. My family is healthy. None of us are disabled in anyway and my child has not physical or mental limitations that keep him from growing or communicating with me. 

8. My husband is employed in a job that allows me to be at home. 

9. I live in a country where I can worship freely, without persecution. 

10. I have the right to vote, I have the right to be educated, I have the right to make my own decisions, and many women in the world do not have that. 

11. I have a place to live. And this was the one that I had to really think about. But I have a place to live where my family is safe. Where we have a roof over our heads. Where we are together each night in a peaceful place where no wars rage outside our walls. We can walk out of our house and look up and see stars. My children can play in the yard and I don't worry about them. 

God honors contentment. In fact, he tells us this in 1 Timothy 6:6 "A God-like life gives us much when we are happy for what we have."

And I have a lot! 

What about you? What do you to to help you have an attitude of gratitude? 


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